It cannot be said enough that trust is the anchor in any and every relationship that we maintain in our lives. The said relationship may manifest in the form of a friendship, business, family or even love - whatever it might be, the most fundamental aspect to that relationship has to be trust in and respect for each other. You must understand that, for any relationship to work out and blossom further, you have to constantly work at maintaining and strengthening that 'trust' factor.
Any relationship finally breaks down if there is extreme lack of trust in it. No matter how hard you try, that bond will never be able to flourish completely without both parties perfectly understanding and accepting each other's motives. Not placing enough trust means that there exists a lot of worry and doubt in that association.
Of course, it sometimes gets difficult to totally trust someone, especially if you have been hurt in some way in a past relationship of some kind. So how do you unlearn your conditioning from all those previous unfortunate experiences and learn to get back that trusting quality you once possessed?
Accept and trust yourself
To unlearn all the negative patterns of thought you have developed through the years, you have to first learn to let go of the past. Forgive yourself and others for all mistakes committed and all the misunderstandings that have come in the way. Acknowledge your mistakes and accept yourself for what you are. All of us have our negatives, some which we simply have to learn to live with.
Learn to trust yourself and your own capabilities. You will only be able to shed your distrusting attitude if you first learn to accept, trust and love yourself. Remember, the macro is the micro. The external world, for us, is only a manifestation of our internal selves. If we continue to be positive, we will have positive experiences in our own lives.
Learn to let go of the past
Learning to let go is a major step towards shedding that over-watchful attitude of yours. This step is most essential if you are experiencing an alarming amount of turbulence in your relationship with your partner or spouse. It happens very often that small day-to-day skirmishes over some truly silly reasons finally snowball out of all proportion and create an irreparable rift between both parties concerned.
Learn to take it easy and talk with the person concerned and express your feelings and thoughts openly. Also, do not keep an "account" of anything. Let the bygones be bygones - leave alone the past and focus on building a better tomorrow with your relationship.
Of course, it has to be noted here that a relationship just will not work out right if one is trying to take undue advantage of the other. If you are being the victim in such a situation, the only way out for you would be to discontinue meeting that particular person and walk out of that relationship altogether.
In conclusion, you should understand that any relationship never completely works out unless there is a complete, 100% trust between both you and the other person involved. So learn to stop doubting people's motives and learn to place trust in each and every one of your relationships, starting today!
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